Overcoming the Fear of Giving Tough Feedback
Tough feedback is difficult to deliver so leaders avoid doing so. That leads to negative dynamics for the person who needs the feedback, for the leader, and for the company. Overcome your fear of delivering tough feedback with a few simple techniques. Today’s post is by Angela Sebaly, author of The Courageous Leader (CLICK HERE to get your copy). Beth is an employee who toggles between meets expectations and underperforming. Over the course of 4 years, she has been bounced around internally from one team to the next – working for 3 different teams altogether. Yet she has not been provided much clarity about why. First, she was told that her strengths would be better leveraged in a role that was not customer-facing. Next, she was informed that she would be more successful assisting another team. The third time she was moved, Beth learned that a different team needed her skills. When I met with her, she described feeling bounced around like a beach ball, not sure where she’d end up next. In fact, Beth was underperforming. Yet instead of saying so, her colleagues passed her along from one team to another hoping someone else would have the courage to deal with the situation more effectively. How often do we buffer others – and ourselves – from this type of situation, holding back valid and useful information and giving messages that are diluted at best? Too often to count. That’s because honest feedback is difficult – even painful – to give and to receive. It’s so much easier to shirk these uncomfortable situations by just avoiding them.
