Are You an Arrogant Leader but Just Don’t Know it?

Are you an arrogant leader? Not sure? There are some hallmark behaviors for recognizing arrogance. Fortunately, it’s a trait that can be reversed if you focus hard on changing specific self-absorbed behaviors.

Today’s post is by Peter Stark and Mary Kelly, authors of Why Leaders Fail (CLICK HERE to get your copy).

There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. When leaders are confident, they have a deep belief in their ability to make a difference in the world. Confidence is an important competency in leadership, and it’s critical to leadership success. Confidence is motivating and inspirational to others. It gives them the ability to take the risks needed to stay innovative and push the team or organization further ahead.

Arrogance crosses the line of confidence. Arrogant people believe they no longer have a need to learn, grow, or change. They wholeheartedly believe they’re right and others are wrong.

Arrogance destroys the valuable, and absolutely essential, relationships a leader has with other team members. Even more devastating is the feeling arrogant behavior creates in others. People have no desire or motivation to follow an arrogant leader. Sometimes the arrogance is so repugnant that people cheer when arrogant people fail, even if it means they suffer, too.

Arrogant leaders embody several traits and behaviors that are detrimental to their leadership success.

Believe They are Smarter

Arrogant individuals truly believe they are the smartest person in the organization.

Bernie Madoff, who orchestrated the largest financial fraud in history with his Ponzi scheme, defrauded his clients for over forty years. The Securities Investment Protection Corpo­ration estimates the actual loss to investors was $18 billion. Why did he do it? He didn’t think he would be caught. He was so supremely arrogant he believed he was smarter than everyone in the SEC.

Some arrogant leaders believe they are smarter because of their formal education, their degrees, or their ability. The belief that one is smarter than others is especially prevalent in “smart” organizations such as universities, technology firms, hospitals, school districts, and law firms.

It’s All About Them

Arrogant people feel best when they talk about themselves. Let’s face it, most of us do, but, arrogant people excel at taking normal human interaction into the truly narcissistic realm. They love to talk about their dreams, goals, and accomplish­ments. They’re not comfortable listening, asking questions, or holding a conversation about other topics.

Arrogant people are good at giving advice (whether solicited or not), but not at accepting advice from others. In fact, if you do happen to broach a topic the arrogant person doesn’t agree with or see value in, they’re quite comfortable cutting you off mid-sentence so they can control the conversation once again.

Lack Listening Skills

Arrogant people take pride in multi-tasking. Instead of taking the time to stop what they’re doing, make eye contact, and truly listen to the person talking to them, arrogant leaders continue responding to their emails, making notes, eating lunch, or completing other tasks. They love looking at other things instead of making eye contact while you are speaking to them. They’re very busy thinking about other things and clearly demonstrate they have far more important issues to attend to than you.

Unwilling to Admit They’re Wrong

Arrogant managers have a very difficult time saying “I was wrong” or “I didn’t handle that well.” Instead, they feel a need to explain why others are wrong and how they are right. According to them, the whole team and organization is messed up, and that’s why they need to take the actions they do.

Withholding Praise and Recognition

Arrogant leaders are quick to tell you how wonderful they are and all the great things they have accomplished, but they tend to withhold praise and recognition when others do great work or are successful. It’s hard for them to believe others are worthy of attention and recognition.

Communicating Disrespectfully

Arrogant leaders might as well wear a sign proclaiming “I am arrogant!” Arrogant leaders are easy to identify by their communication style, both verbal and nonverbal. When things don’t go their way in a conversation, they raise their voices, swear for impact, or put people down in front of others.

Arrogance in the workplace is a serious problem, especially when it begins at the leadership level. It’s also one of the most difficult vices to work with and overcome, and leads to a serious reputation problem. There are only two types of reputa­tions: good reputations and bad reputations. Anything in the middle is leadership gray matter, not a reputation.

The good news is that, with focused effort and hard work, you can change your reputation from one of arrogance to one of servant leadership and humility.

– Executive leadership development and corporate training coaches, Peter B. Stark and Mary C. Kelly (Commander, US Navy Ret.) are co-authors of the new book, Why Leaders Fail: and the 7 Prescriptions for Success. Stark is the President of Peter Barron Stark Companies. Kelly is the President of Productive Leaders.

Did you enjoy this post? If so, I highly encourage you to take about 30 seconds to become a regular subscriber to this blog. It’s free, fun, practical, and only a few emails a week (I promise!). SIGN UP HERE to get the thoughtLEADERS blog conveniently delivered right to your inbox!

Photo: arrogant by Kevin