Hate Your Job? Then Shut Up and Quit
Do you find yourself frequently muttering “I hate my job” every day when you wake up? Have you been saying that for more than a month straight? Are people starting to avoid you because you’re a downer to be around?
Then it’s probably time to shut your face and quit your job.
Yep. Time for another provocative post that’s a slap upside the head for some of you just like the 10 Reasons Your Team Hates You post got a ton of attention.
I know – the economy is terrible. I know – you need health insurance. I know – you have to pay your mortgage. I know – you have to feed your kids (you’ll get no sympathy from me on the last point – my son is 13 years old and his nickname is “Galactus” called such because Galactus is a Fantastic Four villain known as “The Devourer of Worlds”).
I know all those things make it hard to just up and quit. All I’m saying is if you’re that miserable you have some serious introspection to do. What I’d like to offer are a few thoughts on how to think through that process.
Your Employment is “At Will”
When folks read their employment contracts they tend to focus on the point that their employer can let them go at any time. What they never think about is they’re free to quit anytime as well.
For those of you lucky enough to have stock options or other long-term unvested incentives, I’m going to tell you to shut your cakeholes if you protest that you can’t leave because of everything you’re walking away from.
“But Mike! I have a gazillion dollars of options and I can’t quit or I’ll lose them!”
Shut up. Now. You’re making a choice – you’re CHOOSING to hate what you do in exchange for a financial reward you’ll get after you finish doing what you hate. Hmmm… sounds eerily similar to another very old profession.
The first step in evaluating whether you should stay or go is admitting to yourself you can actually go and then calculate what you’re walking away from. Then ask yourself the hard question of whether your happiness is worth that amount of money. If no, then consider leaving.
When is it Time to Leave?
A wise man once told me:
– If you wake up one day and dread going to work, you have a bad meeting coming up.
– If you wake up for a week and dread it every day of that week, you’re on a dog of a project.
– If you wake up for a month and dread it every day of that month, you need to polish your resume.
– If you wake up for two months and dread it for those 60 consecutive days, what the hell are you thinking?!
The point of the above exercise is you have to separate the different kinds of pain your job inflicts. You should be tough enough to fight through the daily ups and downs or stick out that tough project.
It’s only problematic when the dread is structural. When every fiber of your being rails against driving to the office for a prolonged period of time, it’s time to consider a big change. You have to get out of that role or you’ll lose yourself forever. The last question that remains is where do you go if it’s time to get out?
How Far is Far Enough?
Yes, if the above conditions are all met you should definitely evaluate finding a new job. The good news is, sometimes you don’t have to quit to find it.
First, look internally in your company. Unless it’s a tiny organization, there are usually other groups or functions in the company that would be delighted to have you there. Maybe you can change divisions. Or go overseas. Or move into a brand new function. Doing so keeps your long term incentives in place, keeps your benefits (healthcare), and most importantly moves you somewhere you’ll be happier.
The downside of looking internally is many organizations have strong cultures. Those cultures tend to permeate the organization at all levels and in every nook and cranny (mmmmm English Muffins… oops. Sorry). If the culture is what’s causing your pain, moving to another role internally likely won’t solve your problem.
Okay, now let’s look externally because of the culture clash. I know the economy is a dog right now but people are hiring. If you want out badly enough, you’ll find something that will suit you. Sure it might take time and effort but isn’t your sanity and well-being worth it?
If you can’t find something ideal, maybe try your hand at starting your own dream business. Or go back to school and change fields. Find that which makes you happy. Yes, there are risks involved but last I checked, this country was founded on risk taking and at worst, Burger King is hiring.
Another really smart guy once told me “if you don’t do it by the time you’re 40, you’re never going to do it” (whatever “it” is for you – starting a business, getting a degree, changing jobs to a new field you love, etc.). His logic was that by 40 you’ve typically invested enough in a corporate career that the long term incentives are a crushing weight to walk away from and you’re more focused on retiring than you are on growing your career by that point.
Yes, this post is a wakeup call. I’ve had a few conversations with folks in the past few weeks that have prompted this post. They’ve bemoaned their plight in the cubicle farm. They’ve complained about how unhappy they are. And yes, I’ve looked them dead in the eye and given them the same advice I just gave you. If you hate what you’re doing, go do something else.
So, who’s quitting tomorrow?
– Mike Figliuolo at thoughtLEADERS, LLC
P.S. To all you managers who are flipping out right now and hoping your subordinates don’t read this post, I have to ask you – do you really want someone on your team who hates what they do or would you rather they quit with the hopes that the person who replaces them loves the work? That’s what I thought.
Your absolutely right…I couldn’t just take it when I wasn’t in a profile that I liked. I tried a lot but still it didn’t work out.
One fine day, I just said thank you, but no thanks :)
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– George Burns, To a mouse
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The only thing that needs adding is:
When you make the decision, own it. Don't look back. It was what had to be, because that is what you decided had to be. And that point, the change became as imperative as if you had been laid off. There's nothing else to do, but move forward.
I went looking for a new job about 5 years ago, just AFTER I turned 40. I had options to "work at home" in the old job, and when I realized that was an excuse to avoid the dread of going to the office, I knew something was wrong. It took me a few months of introspection to figure out what was missing and that it wasn't me that was wrong, it was that the job and I were wrong for each other. Five years and two promotions later (with a third possible this year), I think with relief that I made the jump.
For me, I was missing family after hours, working on a team as opposed to working alone. By looking for a job where I work closely with others in a region of the country that contains my family and some close old friends, I found a happiness that drives my performance as much as my education!
@MaDdy and @Dave B. – congrats to both of you for having the courage to step up and step out. Glad you found your "happy places"
@Anonymous – amen. When YOU make a choice, YOU are accountable for it. Good add.
Mike,
I totally agree. However, I'm not sure quitting is the right strategy. Better to investigate potential career tracks and settle on a path and begin interviewing for a job first.
Unless its impossible to avoid this. Then take the leap.
@David, I concur. I'm not saying to completely leap without a net. You should always try to line up that next gig before going in and flipping the bird. Ideally you have that gig waiting for you the next day. I'm mostly advocating at least LOOKING for that next gig once you realize your current one sucks.
Thanks for reading and sharing.
Mike,
Great post. I've used the 'How do I feel this morning ?' technique for the past 15 years, and walked away twice, and it did work ! This is the main indicator for me to stop complaining, shut-up and move on.
Great point on the cultural aspect. If you can't deal with the culture, then don't move around, it's the same thing everywhere. A cultural shock talks to your value system, it won't change over time.This a quite common situation during M&A.
Hey, what a bout a really controversial topic, 'You moan every day and decided to stay, then shut-up and work !'. I'm tired of all these people using excuses you mentioned as a reason to stay and ruining our everyday life !
Your French friend, Christophe
@Christophe – glad you've used the technique and had success with it. For the benefit of other readers, Christophe is a very senior and seasoned executive at one of the largest technology companies in the world. I tell you this to add a heavy dose of credibility and validation to this post.
I love the concept of "quit complaining and just quit!" as a post. I'll put it on the list of stuff to write about.
Drop me a line when you have time – I'd love to catch up and hear how things are going.