Our reader poll today asks: How do you react when someone is overly-critical of your work?

• I seek to fully understand any and all feedback I receive: 32.63%
• I look for major issues but tend to ignore smaller criticisms: 45.46%
• I tend to be dismissive of what feels like overly critical remarks: 17.64%
• I blow it off. I have work to do and don’t have time for excessive criticism: 4.27%

Feedback matters. Whether you like the feedback or not, you’d do well to at least consider it. It’s challenging for people to provide feedback and the vast majority don’t unless it’s a major issue. So figure for each person providing feedback, there are five others who are too uncomfortable to offer the same thoughts. If an issue comes up, you’d do well to evaluate it and put it in the proper perspective. Don’t oversteer though – you don’t have to act on every piece of feedback you receive. Sometimes they’re just style or personality differences that lead to the feedback. Act on items of substance and file away other seemingly smaller feedback. But if you begin to see patterns in that smaller feedback over time, assess whether it’s a bigger trend you need to act on. Regardless of the situation, beware of dismissing feedback at your own risk.

– Mike Figliuolo at thoughtLEADERS, LLC

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Our reader poll today asks: How often do you overcommit yourself?

• All the time: I regularly take on more than I should: 32.88%
• Sometimes: I can get overly ambitious from time to time: 48.08%
• Not often: I generally do well to not take on too much: 16.10%
• Never: I always manage my commitments rigorously: 2.94%

Biting off too much. 80% of you say you often bite off more than you can chew. It’s easy to add commitments only to find you have too many commitments. Each one seems like a small, marginal task that we can fit in given the other projects we’re working on. The problem is we forget all the other things that take up our time and energy (meetings, email, urgent issues, people development, etc.). In the grand scheme, those new projects don’t fit in easily. The best suggestion I have is to pause before replying and accepting new work. Go look at your task list and your calendar. Identify exactly where the new project fits in. If there’s not an obvious space to place it, consider passing on doing the work. Better to do a few things well than many things poorly!

– Mike Figliuolo at thoughtLEADERS, LLC

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Our reader poll today asks: How comfortable are you with initiating “uncomfortable conversations?”

• Very: When there’s an uncomfortable topic, I proactively bring it up immediately: 5.69%
• Mostly: I may hesitate, but I do bring up the most important uncomfortable topics: 23.92%
• Sort of: Unless it’s a huge issue, I’ll tend to let the issue pass: 9.66%
• Not very: I have a really hard time initiating uncomfortable situations: 7.85%
• Not at all: I’ll avoid these conversations at all costs, let alone starting them: 52.88%

Avoidance leads to bigger issues. A huge percentage of you avoid difficult or uncomfortable conversations at all costs. While this might alleviate stress in the near term, it makes for bigger headaches in the long run. If someone doesn’t know something is wrong about their behavior, not telling them is a disservice to them and you. People can’t correct what they’re unaware of. And avoiding the conversation in the hopes that the behavior just disappears is wishful thinking. Over time, things will just get worse and that mildly uncomfortable conversation can become extremely uncomfortable and problematic. Do yourself a favor – tell them what’s going on. Letting things fester only makes them worse. Your next step after reading this: find time to have that uncomfortable conversation you’ve been avoiding. You might be pleasantly surprised by how well it goes when the other person gets feedback they can act on to improve their performance and their relationship with you.

– Mike Figliuolo at thoughtLEADERS, LLC

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