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Leadership 101: Leading Yourself

July 14, 2010/6 Comments/in Balanced Lifestyle, Career, Leadership /by Mike Figliuolo

The first step in articulating your leadership philosophy (as teed up in our last post: READ IT HERE) is determining how you’ll lead yourself. Nobody is going to follow you if you don’t know where you’re going (except out of morbid curiosity).

This aspect of leadership is the first area I’ll ask you to examine as you define your own personal set of leadership maxims.  Again, for some video footage on the subject, you can watch me cover the subject here. This concept is the first major section of my book One Piece of Paper – go get a copy by CLICKING HERE

This aspect of leadership is tricky. It requires introspection and a frank, honest conversation with yourself to understand where you’re headed and how you want to get there.

To start that discussion, there are four areas I encourage you to explore:
– Finding your internal motivation
– Charting your path
– Stating how you’ll move down your path
– Inspiring yourself

Examining these areas each in turn can really help you crystallize what motivates you and what your personal rules of the road are.

As you go through the leadership maxims exercises, I encourage you to create a living document where you can capture pointed, clear statements that reflect your principles on the given point. To help you understand what I believe these principles might look like, I’ve offered up a few of my own personal examples. Remember, you can derive maxims from family sayings, books, songs, movies, leadership experiences you’ve had, etc. Heck, you can even steal some of mine if you like them and find them helpful.

All that said, let’s get down to the business of leading yourself.

Without an understanding of what you care about and what your personal ethics are, you’re lost. If you’re lost, your team is lost. ’nuff said.

Finding your internal motivation

Why do you get out of bed every morning (alarm clocks, crying kids, or an overfull bladder are not  acceptable answers here)? Why are you excited to drive to the office? The answers to these two questions can help you articulate a leadership maxim.

My maxim on this point? “Light bulbs” (yes, a maxim can be that simple – a clear statement with deep meaning to ME). What does this one mean? I love to teach. I get excited on the podium. When I see light bulbs go off for people, I know they’ve had a new insight and learned something from me. That’s my maxim. What’s yours?

Charting your path

What are your professional goals? What will your epitaph say? Grim, I know. But at the end of it all when you become worm food, what will you want the summation of your career to be?

Allow me to assist you in developing your maxim on this one Mad Libs style. Simply fill in the blanks for this sentence: “(Your name) stood for (BLANK) and we’ll never forget (BLANK) about him/her.” Imagine someone is reading that statement as your eulogy. Once you’ve reflected on that and filled it in, you have a good start on a maxim for this point.

Mine? “Mike stood for personal and professional development. We’ll never forget the way he was always teaching and always learning.” Yes, it’s a lofty goal. Yes, sometimes I fail to live up to it but at least I have something to shoot for.

Stating how you’ll move down your path

We’re human. We make mistakes. Having guardrails on the path of our lives helps keep us on track. Sure, we’ll run into those guardrails occasionally (and sometimes find ourselves crashing through them and ending up in the ravine on the side of the road). The important thing is to put those guardrails in place and adhere to them as much as we’re able.

A guardrail I’ve adopted as maxims: “What would Nana say?” For any action I’m not sure about, I can simply ask what my Nana would say about it. If she’d approve, I do it. If she’d disapprove, then I shouldn’t do it. It’s a very clarifying maxim for me to use in ethical decision making situations. I’m sure you have a similar rule you can use as your own maxim for this point.

Inspiring yourself

Life will knock you down. It’ll kick you in the teeth. It’ll spit on you and call you names. The big question is how will you pick yourself back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the fight?

As a leader, your team is looking to you in these situations. There won’t always be someone there to lift you back up. You sometimes have to find that inspiration within. This maxim is all about creating an anchor phrase for yourself that you can use to reignite the fire in your belly.

My maxim on this comes from Ernest Hemingway: “Man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated.” Every time I’ve had the wind knocked out of my sails, I find myself referring to that quote to remind myself that I don’t stop fighting and I need to get back up. What phrase, quote, or image will you use as your anchor?

That summarizes the leading yourself aspect of leadership. Is it holistic? No. Is it a great way to start articulating your leadership philosophy? I think it’s at least a good start. Next up we’ll discuss how you can lead the thinking.

– Mike Figliuolo at thoughtLEADERS, LLC

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  1. Brian
    Brian says:
    July 15, 2010 at 5:52 am

    Mike,
    I'm 100% on board with you on this. After reading Covey's 7 Habits I did something similar in the form of a personal mission statement. I think it's one of the most valuable things I've ever done. For nearly 20 years I've reviewed parts of it daily and it's now become a part of me, guiding my behavior and decisions. Great article, great advice.
    Brian

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  2. Web Tasarim
    Web Tasarim says:
    July 16, 2010 at 3:58 am

    beautiful expression. thank you.

    Reply
  3. CarolAnn
    CarolAnn says:
    July 22, 2010 at 7:00 am

    I have a personal mission statement and a leadership philosophy. I've actually been able to boil down to two words guide: "making ripples."

    I recently completed conducting a leadership training program and included creating a leadership philosophy. The participants reflected on how much it has helped them as new leaders and provided guidance in communicating with direct reports, co-workers and executive leadership.

    Reply
  4. mark allen roberts
    mark allen roberts says:
    July 25, 2010 at 9:37 pm

    Great content,

    For years I have chosen to serve and not sell. To lead and not micro manage.
    Secretly I called it "loving on” my internal and external customers.

    However I think the best seller; Delivering Happiness does a much better job explaining leadership for the future as I discuss in my blog : http://nosmokeandmirrors.wordpress.com/2010/07/09/delivering-happiness-proof-%e2%80%a6the-%e2%80%9cgolden-rule%e2%80%9d-is-profitable/

    Mark Allen Roberts

    Reply
  5. time
    time says:
    May 21, 2011 at 3:54 am

    beatiful experission thank you

    Reply

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  1. Chatsworth Consulting Group | Leadership starts with you says:
    March 31, 2014 at 5:48 pm

    […] Those of you who know us at Chatsworth Consulting Group know that we believe in Thoughtful Leadership – looking inside yourself, taking the time to reflect, and taking action with thought and clarity. I recently came across a great piece on the subject of looking inside yourself and knowing yourself – and wanted to share. This blogpost at thoughtLEADERS LLC outlines four areas for every leader to reflect on and know for themselves – finding your internal motivation, charting your path, stating how you’ll move down your path, and most important from my perspective, inspiring yourself. They recommend creating a living, evolving document that describes your leadership philosophy and the maxims and principles by which you will lead. Good stuff! Read the blog post here: Leadership 101: Leading Yourself […]

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