Do you feel guilty when people ask for help and you’re too busy to assist?

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Do you feel guilty when people ask for help and you’re too busy to assist them?

– Not at all. I have my priorities straight: 7.8%

– A little. I like helping but can’t help everyone: 47.1%

– A fair amount. I feel like I’m letting them down if I don’t: 36.7%

– Tremendously. I’ll go out of my way to help to avoid the guilt: 8.4%

Feeling guilty. Many of you feel some sense of guilt when someone requests assistance and you don’t have time to help them. It’s a natural feeling. If you never give in to the guilt, it builds up and makes you feel bad. You also risk a reputation of being someone who doesn’t help others. The other extreme is helping too frequently and stressing yourself out because you help others at the expense of your own work or your time off. Try setting limits for yourself and for others. Limit the number of additional tasks you’ll take on. Learn to say “no” or to defer assistance. Many times a simple “I can’t help right now but I can get to it in a few days” can either buy you the breathing room you need or get the person to find an alternate means of fulfilling their assistance request.

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Mike Figliuolo at thoughtLEADERS, LLC

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These results were originally a SmartPulse poll in SmartBrief on Leadership which tracks feedback from more than 210,000 business leaders. Get smarter on leadership and sign up for the SmartBrief on Leadership e-newsletter.

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