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Finding the Courage to Pursue Your Dream

November 11, 2013 5 Comments

The Word DreamsToday’s post is by Paul Smith, thoughtLEADERS instructor and author of Lead With a Story.

I recently found myself struggling with the toughest career decision of my life (you can read about that here). I was trying to choose between two very different options. One was to stay in my current job, which provided lots of reliable income and benefits as well as long-term financial security. But it wasn’t work I was unusually excited about doing. The other option I was truly passionate about, and through it I could make a tangible impact on people’s lives. But it provided no long-term financial security, and no steady paycheck.

I figure you’re never too old to benefit from someone older and wiser. So I wrote my 80-year-old father a letter and asked him what I should do. But instead of just giving me advice, he shared a story about himself as a young boy that I’d never heard before. His letter said,

“Son, when I was 5 or 6 years old I knew exactly what I wanted to do when I grew up. I wanted to be a singer—yeah a singer—like Bing Crosby, Frank Sinatra, or Tony Bennett. My mother always had the radio on listening to all the popular music of the day, and I listened. And I just knew that’s what I wanted to do.

By the time I started 1st grade I knew all the popular songs—words and music by heart. About the 2nd or 3rd week of school the teacher asked if anyone in the class had some talent like dancing or singing or doing magic tricks—things like that.  Well, I put up my hand and said I could sing popular songs. So she asked if I would sing one for the class. Despite the fact that I’d never sung in front of anyone except my mother, I said yes. I picked my favorite song, and I did it. I sang the whole song—all the right words and melody. I still remember the song. It was I Don’t Want To Set The World on Fire by the Ink Spots.

When I was done, the teacher and students applauded. And that’s when I was certain, that’s what I was destined to do with my life.

Well, that turned out to not only be the first time, but also the last time I ever sang in front of an audience.  Life got in the way. But it really remained my dream for the rest of my life.  I just never had the courage to pursue it. One day, son, you’ll wake up and be 80 years old like me, and it will be too late.”

And as if that story by itself wasn’t enough to motivate me, my father closed the letter with three sentences that literally took my breath away, and changed my life. He said,

“I’d love to see you pursue your dream. But that doesn’t mean in your lifetime, son — that means in mine.

Love, Dad”

Those words hit me like an unexpected kick in the head. Everything stopped, except for my heart, which was now beating out of my chest, and loud enough to hear. I read his words again. (‘Did he say what I think he just said?’). Yes, he did. My father had laid down the gauntlet in front of me, and challenged me to pick up. Not sometime in the future, many years down the road. But right now.

It was like that scene in the movie Rocky II, where Adrian tells Rocky to “Win!” The theme music starts with a loud orchestra hit. And Rocky starts the most inspirational workout in cinematic history. Except in my scene, I’m Rocky, and this isn’t a movie. It’s real life.

More importantly, my dream was no longer just my dream. It was now my father’s dream, too. He will never achieve his dream of being a singer. But through me, if I have the courage to go through with it, he can enjoy the closure he never had with his own dream. I can think of no more inspiring and worthy challenge.  And I find it poetically ironic that the man who in 1967 gave me life, would 46 years later give me the courage to truly live it.

I hope you get something out of my father’s letter, too. Many of us harbor a secret dream we’re too afraid to pursue. And as long as we are the only one we’re disappointing I supposed that might be ok. But we all probably have someone in our lives we care about that also wants to see us pursue our dreams. That might be a parent, a sibling, spouse, friend, coworker, or child.

Whoever that is for you, if you won’t pursue your dream for your own sake, do it for them. You’ll make two people happy in the process.

Oh, by the way, the week after reading those words from my father, I walked into my boss’ office and resigned from my 20-year career to pursue my dream.

Thanks Dad.

Paul Smith- Paul Smith is a former director and 20-year veteran of the Procter & Gamble Company, and author of Lead with a Story: A Guide to Crafting Business Narratives that Captivate, Convince, and Inspire.  Paul is also the primary architect of a thoughtLEADERS course on Influencing through Storytelling and loves teaching every minute of it.

5 Responses to “Finding the Courage to Pursue Your Dream”

  1. Wayne Sommer says:

    Your post could not have been more timely for me. Not two months ago I made the decision to leave my executive level post at a professional association. I had been there for 22 years. Trained as an accountant, I was acting very unaccountant-like by leaving without a job waiting for me. I am both nervous and excited about the possibilities of pursuing something that is truly me and, like you, hopefully will make an impact on someone else’s life. Reading stories like yours is encouraging. Thanks for sharing; all the best to you.

  2. Dear Paul,

    Thank you for this article. It was very powerful. I hope many get to read it. It really is not about the comfort we have and promises of a secure future. It boils down to living someone’s dream that does often end up being our dream. I left a job of 18yrs and look where I ended up…

    All the best,
    MLNangalama

  3. Joe Wasylyk says:

    Paul,

    Hi! I hope that you follow your Father’s advice and get after your dream. At the same time I would like you to tell your Father that it’s still NOT too late for him to achieve HIS dream of singing popular songs or whatever. At 80 years old your dad is just beginning his Fourth Act (80-100) years old. Medical advances have allowed many of us older folk to continue working on our dreams. And, at this age we don’t need to focus on making tons of money but just do what your passionate about for as long as you can.

    Joe W.

  4. Jan says:

    Paul – timely, touching and inspirational. Thank you for having the courage to share your story.

    Jan

  5. Duane Penzien says:

    A profound reminder just when I needed it most. Thank You!

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